when what you think & say, is so far appart from what people hear and think you said...How can you communicate efficiently ? should you still bother to speak? or just shut up and watch things unfold, even fall appart ?
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The Lyons Den - Euro Summer edition
Last night the Summer edition of the Lyons Den - Euro Version aired on www.915thesource.org ! So I got up at 2 am to tune in to the show, and also to call in ! Always great to talk to the guys over at the Lyons Den!
in case you missed the live stream you can hear the mix on the archives here:
the Lyons Den - Euro Version part 1.
the Lyons Den - Euro Version part 2.
Hope you enjoy the mix, and let me know what you think! Looking forward to hear from you!
Find the complete archive for the Lyons Den here.
Privacy and the internet
So with the latest NSA scandal, probably the last one using a computer has become aware that everything you say and do on the internet can be tracked in one way or another. What it comes down to is very simple; the only place that remains truly private is inside our heads!
Anything you type into a machine, whether on a social network or even a "private" email etc., is in the end accessible to at least the company whose service you are using to write an email. And they do access all your emails. As an example, wrote to a friend about Poi once, and the next day I had advertisement linking me to Poi resellers etc....
So: privacy and the internet? Simple: you want to keep something private, don't put it on the internet in any way shape or form. If you put it out there, it is accessible.
Expectations
I have been battling with this most of my life.Expectations, or rather the expectations that other people have of me. The unquestionable and ultimate answer to these is: FUCK 'EM, they are not mine. This holds true for my employer, my family as well as my friends.
I have for a long time worked on actually pleasing other people, but ultimately there is just no pleasing everyone all the time, so if you satisfy one person, at the same time you'll disappoint someone else. My question then is, why bother at all? And the only possible answer is, just don't bother. Ultimately what most expect of you is things they fail at themselves, so why should you have to live to a standard that they cannot satisfy themselves?
No really there is just no way to keep on doing it like this. All that matters at the end of the day is what makes sense to me, no matter what someone else may come to think of me. In the end, the only one who can truly judge me, will be me, so no it's time to stop bothering with the others, and just focus on myself, and my motto is do whatever I like, as long as I don't intentionally harm someone else.
Or to use Ben Harper's word: "Take me as I am, or leave me the way you found me!"
Helping out...
When I offer to help someone out, I find it quite natural to do what I offered.. I find it bewildering however when I tell someone about a problem I have, they offer me to take care of it and then just don't. (mind you I did not ask them for their help, no they just offered it) Since the help was voluntarily offered I figured I could count on it. Seems nowadays that principle no longer applies.. So if someone offers to help you out, best to ask another one to do the same, then at least the odds are slightly more in your favor....